Friday, February 13, 2009

Working 4 Days

I have been bothered by some comments I have received lately. I am probably just a little sensitive (Me sensitive?!?:) ) about the subject but I need to vent- I guess to make myself feel better.
The comments boil down to this- "Oh, working 4 days now, huh? But your in a new house." This makes me feel like we picked the house over me staying home with Addison on the 4th day. Grant and I worked hard to stay within our budget to make sure our house payment stayed where we were comfortable. We achieved this! (Despite my brother-in-law and father-in-law's predictions..HeHeHe!)

We had always planned on me going back to work 4 days before we had another baby. We were not in any hurry for either, but, yes, with building the house a little extra money did come in handy. I was the one that offered to go back 4 days until January to take some pressure off of us. Money pressure is not good for a happy family and we didn't want that stress! So now it is February. I am still working 4 days. We plan on me going back to 3 days, but it has been nice to buy blinds for the house and know we were able to put extra money down on the house and can now build our savings back up. I also hate to go back to 3, and the other therapists I work with have to pick up extra work. AND when we do have another baby, they technically wouldn't have to hold my 3-day a week position while I was on leave. So this leads to the next comment... :)
We will start trying for baby #2 when we are ready. We are not there yet so you don't have to ask:)
My Thursdays aren't bad. I work extra the other days so I can leave early on Thurs and usually pick Addison up after her nap. This works for us now and will probably continue untill baby #2, whenever they may be!
So, thanks for listening...even if it isn't anyone else's business, I feel better.


Anonymous said...

You gotta do what you gotta do! Don't let it bother you....easy for me to say! I would have probably cried at any comment questioning my work load.

You are an incredible mother. I still REALLY want to see your house!

Anonymous said...

Bless you. I never even considered that anyone would look at that as a trade off between being with Addison for a newer house. I worked every day this past week, and it didn't really hurt me (although I don't want to have to do it all the time). It's really funny because I love what I do for a living right now, but I still think I'd prefer to be a full time SAHM. I wonder if that makes God scratch His head and go, "Huh??? She loves what she does, but she doesn't want to do it???"

Cary Hairbows said...

((((HUGS))) I recently left my career as a nurse practitioner to be home "for a bit." I have every intention to go back into the workplace, but my husband's crazy hours made the childcare issues a little complicated.

I know God wants me to be a mother....and yet, I know He put me on this earth to care for children in a professional role. Have no regrets...put the earplugs in and be strong to let people know they are hurting you.

You are an amazing woman--both in the home and in the professional realm. And never forget---YOU bless many!!!


Tera Floyd said...

Gina, Oh how we worry about what others say! Don't let it get to you. You have to do what you think is best for your family. There are many people out there that like to critic other people's choices without fully realizing that they were not in the same position as the person they are criticing. You are a great mother!! I have seen first hand how you have always put your family first. You love Addison and Grant and that is all that matters. The thing is you can tell Addison knows that she is loved. You just keep making the best decisions for your family that way you can live without any regrets.

Love you!

P.S. When I am having issues with working and being Porter's mom, please remind me of what I have told you :):):):)

Paula said...

Let me tell you something from a SAHM....First of all, there is no reason for you to feel bad or let what other people say bother you. To be totally honest, I know plenty of SAHMs whose kids would be better off not being "stuck" at home all week. People have said stuff to me about my kids going to MDO twice a week, but you know it actually *improves* me and the boys' interactions bc we get a break from each other and they get to play in a different environment. Point is, who's to say its a bad thing that we arent with our kids 24/7?? And who's to say just bc someone is a SAHM that they are automatically doing the "right" thing for their kids?

Sure Brad and I have made sacrifices for me to be home, but you are absolutely right in saying that financial problems are very difficult on a couple (and consequently their kids!). It can be very scary when a family's entire income depends on one person, so you are probably taking alot of pressure off your husband;)

You are a great mom...Addison is happy and healthy. Thats all the matters.

Gina said...

Thanks ladies! We ladies sure can come together and make each other feel better, huh!?!